What Every Guy Should Be..

1.) Optimistic and Great Sense of Humor

He has a positive outlook on life, even when things aren’t bright and sunny. He always makes you laugh with his great sense of humor. Most of the time, he is someone who is very fun and enjoyable to be with.

2.) Faithful/Loyal and Committed

He is someone who is reliable and trustworthy. You know deep down in your heart that you can always count on him for support, understanding, and comfort. Most importantly, you can trust him that he won’t deliberately do things or make decisions that would hurt you or the relationship/marriage.

3.) Great Communication Skills

He listens em pathetically and patiently to the things you say without being judgmental. He tries to see things from your point of view before providing solutions or advice. He is able to get his message across and conveys his thoughts effectively.

4.) Respect You and Treat You as an Equal Partner

He values your opinions and genuinely wants to understand your thoughts. He discusses things with you before making important decisions. He respects you, your family, your friends, your choices, your career, and your space/privacy.

5.) Affectionate, Sensitive, and Romantic

He expresses his love and care for you through simple, affectionate gestures like hugs, kisses, holding hands, calls, sweet little notes/cards, saying “I love you,” and etc. He is attentive and sensitive to your needs, and he cheerfully does little things to make you happy and loved and cared for.

6.) Appreciative and Forgiving

He doesn’t take you or the relationship/marriage for granted. He appreciates you and the things you do for him on a daily basis. He doesn’t hold grudges when you unintentionally hurt his feelings or make mistakes. He forgives and moves on.

7.) Love You Just the Way You Are

You are good enough just the way you are – in fact, in his eyes, you are the best. He accepts you as a total package – the good and the not-so-good. He helps and encourages you to learn and grow to your fullest potential, instead of molding you to become the “dream girl” or “ideal wife” in his fantasy.

8.) Financially Responsible

Notice I didn’t mention “financially wealthy” – I said “financially responsible.” You don’t have to be a millionaire or make 500k a year. It’s not about how much money you make but rather how well you manage what you have – making wise financial decisions, plans, and investments.

9.) Passionate about Life

He has other passions in life other than you, for example his work, hobbies, interests, friends, family, religious beliefs, and etc. He takes good care of himself and doesn’t rely on you entirely for his happiness. He deeply believes and feels that life is wonderful and worth living and he’s committed to life long learning and self development.

10.) Confident and Competent

He is confident, but not arrogant. Men are born leaders, protectors, and providers (at least they deeply believe they are) – we all know that. It’s nothing new. However, in order for a woman to genuinely and deeply admire, adore, and respect her man, he has to be competent to begin with. That doesn’t mean he has to perfect (everybody makes mistakes) or has supernatural powers. But he kind of has to know what he’s doing.

Here’s What I Think Every Guy Should Do:
( a list of my frustration with some guys.. )
1. Say What You Mean.

It really gets into my nerves when a guy says this and that then you found out later that what they said were all lies. Stop trying to be nice. Just tell say it. No matter how blunt you’ll appear to be. Guys find it so easy to say to ‘I love you’ to any girl. Oftentimes, we fall for it and we become blinded. Honesty is really important for us girls. Don’t give us false hopes. Cut us some slack. We are emotional creatures. Anything you say really affects us.

2. Don’t Make Promises You Can’t Make.

“I’ll only love you..” The most abused promise of them all. Guys stop saying those things not unless you’re certain that you’re marrying the girl. Don’t give full of air promises. It really hurts us girls when you don’t keep them. Rather than making those promises verbally, try to show it. It really is true about actions speaking louder than words.

3. Stop Collecting.

I know most men go on feeding their egos. Collecting girls from everywhere. Don’t treat us like we’re cars or NBA cards. We’re not objects. We get hurt when you do this. One at a time please. Treat each girl as you would treat you mother or sister.

4. Be Sensitive.
Sometimes we don’t tell you. Try to be more sensitive. Sometimes we say we are fine when in fact we are not. We may not always say it directly so look for other cues or observe our actions.
5.Always Be A Gentleman.

Manners matters. Don’t act like apes. You were given brains for a reason. Try to be tactful and behave properly. When you see a girl standing offer her a seat. Just because gender equality is popular nowadays, it doesn’t mean that you treat girls like men too.
Again emphasis on SOME… I don’t mean that all guys lack those aforementioned. I would be committing the fallacy of hasty generalization if I said all men. I myself know a few great men who do those things. Kudos to those men.
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