Hi guys! So I was doing my usual web explorations when I came across this. Love addiction! I think with this digital age we are more vocal online than we are offline so I think love addiction is more rampant than ever. Wonder if you are a love addict yourself?
Here are some typical signs of love or romantic addiction:
- Frequently mistaking intense sexual experiences or romantic infatuation for love
- Constantly searching for romance and love
- Using sex as a means to find love
- Falling in love with people ‘met’ online yet hasn’t met them in real life
- Problems maintaining intimate relationships once the newness and excitement has worn off
- Consistent unhappiness or anxiety when alone
- When not in a relationship, misusing sex to mask loneliness
- Consistently choosing abusive or emotionally unavailable partners
- Giving emotionally, financially, or otherwise to partners who require a great deal of care-taking but do not or can not reciprocate what they are given
- When in a relationship feeling detached, fearful, or unhappy; when out of a relationship, feeling desperate and alone
- Using sex, money, seduction, drama, or other schemes to “hook” or hold onto a partner
- Missing out on important family, career, recreational, or social experiences in order to find, create, or maintain a romantic relationship
- Giving up, by avoiding sex or relationships for long periods of time, to “solve the problem”
- Being unable to leave unhealthy or abusive relationships despite repeated promises to self or others
- Returning to previously unmanageable or painful relationships despite promises to self or others not to
For those seeking a long-term a relationship, healthy romantic intensity is the catalyst that brings about the bonding necessary to sustain love and attachment. The beginning stages of a potential love relationship are the most exhilarating because that emotional state helps us to bond and attach. This is when how that date looks, walks, talks, eats, and thinks is the subject of endless fantasy, excitement, and late night phone calls. Romance itself, with or without sex, does encourage personal growth when we are open to learning. Only then can each new relationship offer insight and self-awareness. Most people easily relate to that “rush” of first love and romance, the stuff of endless songs, greeting cards, and fantasy, but understand that it is a temporary state and not the final product of a healthy relationship.
More than romance, intensity, or even great sex, real intimacy is an experience of being known and accepted by someone over time. Loving relationships develop in part as those first exhilarating times together form a foundation of a deeper, long-term closeness. It is that deeper closeness which ultimately feeds our hearts and keeps us content long after the rush of new romance has passed.