Forgetting Love

Pablo Neruda always have had exquisite choice of words, this poem probably one of my favorites from him that have helped me cope up with break-ups.

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I want you to know

one thing.

You know how this is:
if I look
at the crystal moon, at the red branch
of the slow autumn at my window,
if I touch
near the fire
the impalpable ash
or the wrinkled body of the log,
everything carries me to you,
as if everything that exists,
aromas, light, metals,
were little boats
that sail
toward those isles of yours that wait for me.

Well, now,
if little by little you stop loving me
I shall stop loving you little by little.

If suddenly
you forget me
do not look for me,
for I shall already have forgotten you.

If you think it long and mad,
the wind of banners
that passes through my life,
and you decide
to leave me at the shore
of the heart where I have roots,
remember
that on that day,
at that hour,
I shall lift my arms
and my roots will set off
to seek another land.

But
if each day,
each hour,
you feel that you are destined for me
with implacable sweetness,
if each day a flower
climbs up to your lips to seek me,
ah my love, ah my own,
in me all that fire is repeated,
in me nothing is extinguished or forgotten,
my love feeds on your love, beloved,
and as long as you live it will be in your arms
without leaving mine.

It is not easy to be forgotten by someone. I learned to appreciate heartbreaks along the way. They taught me my real value and what I truly valued. Sad as it is to be forgotten by someone you consider important, it is part of life. You would not want to spend your life chasing after someone. These temporary let downs will bring you to the right place. You will eventually meet someone who will be there for you through thick and thin. Loving someone is always a risk that brings the best and worst out of us. Healing is not impossible, it just takes time. You just need to remember this:

If you should forget,

forget pain, resentment and judgement.

Should you remember,

remember the joys of loving someone and being loved.

Moving On

here’s a free verse poem i made last Feb 28,2008..

Here I am…

A year older yet I don’t feel like I’ve done a lot in my life.

What’s ahead for me is still vague.

What lies beyond, I can’t foretell.

My wounded soul

I don’t know if I can go on.

Should I fake happiness?

when the one I love do not care about me.

I loved him with no conditions but he chose live without me.

I would not know now if he’s miserable like me or happy and free from me.

Am I that worthless for you not to spare even a second of your time?

You’re cold and hurtful yet, to my agony you’re the only cure.

How do I go on?

When you have left me here with nothing at all.

Sleepless Habits

He woke me up from a monotonous slumber.

I haven’t really taken much risk to do something that would make me happy.

I was too concerned about the past and future that I kept on forgetting to live in the now.

 

He made me see what I wanted in a relationship the long meaningful walks and having someone easy to talk to.

Someone who you can easily bare your soul to,

someone who sees right through you,

and someone who encourages you to live in the happy side of life.

 

He maybe far but in my heart he will always be near.

Finding Love

We’re all seeking that special person who is right for us. But if you’ve been through enough relationships, you begin to suspect there’s no right person, just different flavors of wrong. Why is this? Because you yourself are wrong in some way, and you seek out partners who are wrong in some complementary way. But it takes a lot of living to grow fully into your own wrongness. And it isn’t until you finally run up against your deepest demons, your unsolvable problems—the ones that make you truly who you are—that we’re ready to find a lifelong mate. Only then do you finally know what you’re looking for. You’re looking for the wrong person. But not just any wrong person: the right wrong person—someone you lovingly gaze upon and think, “This is the problem I want to have.”

I will find that special person who is wrong for me in just the right way.

Let our scars fall in love.
― Galway Kinnell

When we find that someone, we start to see a bigger picture and realize vague things.  Accidents find meaning. Complexity brings peace. Everything falls just into the right place. It does not seem to matter any more if those scars we have hidden for years are seen. Certainty in acceptance ends life-long fear of vulnerability.  We find happiness and beauty in it. With just one, the universe seems to go in the same flow with us. For once, we can attest that there is after all heaven in earth.

When Perfect is Wrong

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So we all want the “PERFECT ONE”. I have to admit, I’m one of those. Yup, i hate to blurt it out but i am a hopeless romantic. One with naïve thoughts about love. I blame it on fairy tales. We all grew up thinking that such stories are real and that it will eventually happen to us.  My past relationships definitely had no fairytale ending. It was more like that of a horror flick in which I end up being brutally killed.

A funny thing about love is that we often fall for someone who  we think is perfect for us but we end up getting hurt. I think most of us have experienced this. Life is crazy as it is and a million years cannot prepare us for it. The thing that makes life exciting and worth while are its surprises. LOVE makes life sweet. It gives us a reason to continue. Though it’s filled with complexities,what’s more important is not on finding the perfect one for us but showing them that we can do our best to love perfectly even though were only humans.

An Open Letter To Single Men and Women

I was reading a book by Richard Gosse entitled How to Find a Lasting Relationship and I managed to come across these two open letters. It was funny so I thought that I should share this with you.

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AN OPEN LETTER TO SINGLE MEN
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I’m a single woman looking for the right man for a romantic relationship. It’s discouraging sometimes. You can make things a lot easier for me by doing the following:

1. Don’t stay at home–I’ll never be able to meet you.
2. Make yourself available by going to places that I frequent.
3. Don’t be afraid to approach me. You’re doing me a favor by breaking the ice.
4. Give me the same privilege of initiating contact with you.
5. Don’t expect me to hop into bed just because you feel turned
on. I may not feel like it. And don’t think that I owe you my
body just because you took me out on a date or bought me a
drink.
6. When we first meet, don’t tell me I’m the most beautiful
woman you’ve ever met or that you are madly in love with me.
I’m not dumb enough to swallow that.
7. Don’t talk to me like I’m one of the guys in the locker room.
I’m not.
8. Control your drinking. Too much booze makes you very
unattractive to me.
9. Please be patient and wait for me. Don’t marry someone wrong
for you before I have a chance to meet you.


Sincerely,
Ms. Right

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AN OPEN LETTER TO SINGLE WOMEN
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I am a single man looking for someone special for a loving relationship. It isn’t easy. You can facilitate things for me by doing the following:

1. Don’t stay at home–I’ll never be able to meet you.
2. Make yourself available by going to places I frequent.
3. If you’re open to meeting me, let me know. A smile, eye
contact, standing or sitting next to me are all ways of
tipping me off that you find me attractive.
4. Take the initiative. I may be too shy to say hello, but that
doesn’t mean I don’t want to meet you.
5. Don’t expect me to be witty, charming, clever or profound in
the first four minutes we talk. Give me time to relax and
find something we have in common.
6. Don’t judge me harshly because you’ve had bad experiences
with other men. I am a unique person and deserve to be
treated accordingly.
7. Don’t be on the defensive if I approach you. I know some guys
are rotten,but I’m different.
8. Don’t assume that I want to go to bed with you. I might want
to get to know you first.
9. Don’t be a tease and pretend you want to sleep with me if you
don’t.
10. Don’t play hard to get. I only have so much nerve and
motivation. I may give up on you quickly unless you give me
some encouragement.
11. Please be patient and wait for me. What a tragedy it would be
if you married the wrong person before you got a chance to
meet me.

Sincerely,
Mr. Right

Can you relate with any of the ones listed? Let me know what you think.

What Love Shouldn’t Feel Like

Thought Catalog

Love shouldn’t feel circumstantial. It shouldn’t feel as if I love you more than you love me or vice versa. There shouldn’t be conditions, levels or lesser degrees of love. If there are then whatever you’re feeling is something else. Maybe lust, maybe like, maybe comfort – but certainly not love. The effort shouldn’t be one-sided; all of the little things can’t come from one contributor; and if you hurt, your companion should as well.

Love shouldn’t make someone feel like a bother. We shouldn’t be able to empathize with a pesky gnat at a picnic, being shooed away. Love shouldn’t be treated like hard labor, and it shouldn’t feel like it either. It shouldn’t make us sad more often than happy, or lead to bad times outweighing the good.

Love shouldn’t consist of waiting around to hear from the person you care infinitely about. That’s the worst. Sitting by…

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